You, Me and Us

Imagine drawing three circles on a paper entitled “My Relationship” or “My Previous Relationships.”  The three circles represent how much of the relationship consists of “me” (my needs, wants, desires, moods, demands, etc.) “you” (your moods, wishes, dreams, demands, needs, etc.) and “us” (what serves our relationship, our commitment, our future, our connection.) How much […]

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Solving Relationship Problems Requires Compassion

Note: This is the third of a three-part series. Want a technique that will replace your anger and resentment with something more compassionate and loving?  Steven Stosny in his groundbreaking book You Don’t Have To Take It Anymore (Free Press) explains how to rid yourself of anger and resentment: Access your core hurts.  Our core […]

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Entitlement

Dear Neil:  My boyfriend can never be wrong, and nothing the least bit critical can be said to him without him getting angry, defensive, withdrawn and self-righteous.   I’m not talking about me being hard, mean or super critical of him.  I’m talking about day to day irritations, or requests about words or behaviors that concern […]

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