Does Having Different Family Values Mean We Shouldn’t Get Married?

Dear Neil: I have been engaged for 5 months, but we haven’t set a date, mostly because I am afraid of moving forward. My fiancé and I have been dating over 3 years. He and I come from different backgrounds and have different traditions and family values. My family celebrates birthdays, religious holidays and loves […]

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Don’t Overgeneralize Relationship Problems

Dear Neil:  My girlfriend is a wonderful woman in every way but one.  But this one thing makes me question whether we could ever be compatible with each other long-term.  She lets everything go till the last minute.  You name it—bills, showing up for an appointment on time, washing dishes, doing the laundry, cleaning her […]

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How Does a Couple Deepen The Intimacy and Commitment Between Them?

Dear Neil:  I have lived with my boyfriend for 10 months.  A couple of weeks ago he went out with a long-time female friend of his, and he didn’t get home until 3 a.m. on a Tuesday night.   I questioned him about where he was, and he said “at a bar,” which I later found […]

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What Are Your Expectations?

Happiness has been described as the difference between your expectations and what you get.  The following is an exercise to explore your expectations of your relationship.   Consider each question in light of what you want for the future. What are your expectations regarding: Sexual fidelity Do you expect to love each other always?  Do you […]

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