Obstacles to Intimacy

Why is intimacy so difficult?  Most people in our culture don’t know how to succeed in a good, intimate, close, monogamous relationship.  So they struggle with less than close relationships, hoping things will get better.  Some people, however, do have close relationships, and some spouses/lovers are, in addition, best friends with each other. So why […]

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Overfunctioning/Underfunctioning Relationships

Are you a well functioning and responsible person living with someone who is barely functional and irresponsible? Are you someone who does too much, married to someone who does too little? If so, you may be in an “overfunctioning/underfunctioning” relationship. Roberta Gilbert, in the book Extraordinary Relationships defines a person as overfunctioning when they’re doing things […]

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Back and Forth Relationships

The Leave/Come Back/Leave Relationship Last year things began to change drastically in my three-and-a-half-year relationship. We had made plans to get married when suddenly he stopped treating me with the respect he always had, he was angry, blamed me for things, told me he needed time to himself to sort things out, rented a place […]

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