Dear Neil: There are so many failed marriages and/or relationships anymore—including my own—that I would like to know if you could write about what people need to do in order to make their relationship work? What separates a “normal” relationship—the one most of us have—from a good one? What is required in order to make […]
Are You Safe to be Vulnerable Around?
Note: This is the first of a two-part series Aimee is standing in front of the mirror staring at herself. “Gary…do you think I need to get my nose fixed?” If Gary’s goal is a closer partnership, he needs to create safety for Aimee. And that means passing up the opportunity to make a joke […]
Traits of Happy Couples
Creating The Best Relationship You Can What can you do to create the best relationship possible? A close, intimate, happy, heartful, soulful, romantic, connected, affectionate and passionate relationship? I am talking about creating—not simply having—the best relationship possible, because while falling in love just happens, staying in love never happens by itself. We begin our […]
Being Thankful for What Your Relationship Offers You
It’s Thanksgiving again. Time to take notice of things we are truly grateful for. But while it is easy to be grateful in the abstract—for sun and rain and good food—often the place where it is the most difficult to practice is in our most intimate relationships. So many of us are (rightfully) grateful to […]
Traits of a Good Relationship
Dear Neil: We have been married four years, and have noticed that a lot of things can water down our closeness and intimacy for us. Could you describe the traits or skills that are necessary for my wife and I to create the best relationship we possibly can? Dwindling in Pensacola, Florida Dear Dwindling: Here […]
What Makes Love Last?
What Happy Couples Do That The Rest of Us Don’t What is the difference between happy and unhappy couples? What do happy couples do to make their love last longer? What secrets do happily married people know that the rest of us haven’t figured out yet? “There are couples who remain deeply in love for […]