Dear Neil: I’m desperate to salvage my relationship. We’ve been in an on again/off again relationship for the last 6 years. We have three children, and one on the way. We both have full time jobs. While I tend to the children, cook dinner, clean, do laundry, help with homework—his job takes priority over everything, and I feel shut out and unappreciated. Making money is what gets his gears moving, or so it seems. And when he’s home, he’s not engaged. He sits on the couch with the tv on, browsing social media on his phone. When we go out to eat for date night, he’s on his phone, so I feel increasingly disconnected from him.
I often think I’m around only for his convenience, because I take care of everyone, and I am getting nothing in return. I want him to be a partner to me, but I feel he’s put me on the back burner for a long time. It seems as if nothing I do is good enough, and he has one foot out the door. What can I do to be better for him? I could really use some words of wisdom.What is Wrong With Me?
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