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Imagine the following: You are running late to meet a friend for lunch. Because you are in a hurry, you find yourself speeding down an icy road. A police car spots you, pulls you over and tickets you for speeding. You curse your bad luck. When the police officer finally lets you go, you pass by a major car wreck—just blocks from where you were stopped. You pull over to lend assistance, and discover that the driver is hurt. She got in an icy skid and slammed into a telephone pole a minute or two before you drove by. You help her out of her car, call for help, take your jacket off and wrap it around her because she is cold. You also call your lunch date and reschedule your luncheon, apologizing for the short notice.
How probable would it be that you and the driver—who you stay with until help arrives—might become close friends? What would you guess the chances would be that it could have been you that slammed into that telephone pole if the police officer hadn’t pulled you over? If you were the hurt driver, would you feel affection or gratitude for the person who rescued you?
Throughout most days of our life, we have chance encounters with people or situations that can be—and often are—life transforming. Think back for a moment. How did you meet your spouse/sweetheart/lover? Although there are the personals or online matchmaking sites, most people meet the person of their dreams through a chance encounter—at a grocery store, or a dance class, while waiting for your car to be fixed or in a doctor’s waiting room.
How did you meet the person you view as your closest friend? Your first girlfriend/boyfriend? Your first love? When has an author unexpectedly influenced you? How about someone who has had a significant impact on the profession or job you’ve chosen? When has a movie you saw, a book you read, a speaker you heard or a teacher you once had changed your life?
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